Lady Valerie was born in Leicester City, Leicestershire, England. She has an older sister, Mary and a younger brother, Simon. She began her primary schooling at Leicester Grammar School until the age of thirteen but later transferred to Marlborough College, where she remained until the age of eighteen. There, she met and old childhood friend, the Lady Eleanor McClaire and they rekindled their friendship, having been best friends ever since.
In 2006 she moved to London own her own and went to King's College London, where she studied Classics. She currently works at the British Library as a conservator.